There are a lot of moms struggling right now with their little ones, myself included. The times where it feels like no matter what, you cannot find a way to lessen the chaos that is happening within your family. It just continues to build, the kids are bouncing off the walls, they follow you everywhere around the house, there are toys everywhere that no one seems to have brought out or played with and no one is listening. No matter how hard you try to get anyone’s attention, you seem to go unheard.
In these moments, which sometimes feels like every other week, take a step back. It is important to remember that often times their behavior is a reflection of our inner struggles and change in energy. Of course, you say, my energy is all over the place because they aren’t listening, they will not give me a moment of peace and quiet, etc. Take a step back further, there was something that sparked change in your family and it rippled out to everyone. This is not to place blame on any person or parent, but to bring even more awareness to our energy and its effects on those around us. We are that connected! A simple thought of worry, or anticipation of change coming, ripples out to everyone. Sometimes it takes awhile to remember that it is our energy that is off and even I fall into this category. It has been a week of what feels like chaos in our home, but this morning the “Aha” came.
For example, every Christmas season comes the end of my husbands work season with an indefinite start date come the New Year. He is the primary financial earner in our home. So as the days dwindle down to Christmas, both of our energy changes in anticipation of what is coming. Add into this, a bigger change for our family that will be coming as early as the New Year or could be into next fall, which also depends on my husbands work status, the energy shifts yet again. To top it off, the kids are just genuinely excited for the Christmas season and all it brings. Put this all together and it can feel like chaos.
Our sensitive little ones can feel these changes in our energy, they feel that we are not grounded, they feel the stress we carry going into the Christmas season and they can feel our energy changes as we prepare to take a leap of faith. They have the ability to see and feel how these changes will affect the whole family in the future. It feels different and when children rely and thrive on routine (even energetic routines), of course it will change their behavior. The best way that they know how to get your attention is to “act out”.
So what do we do with this knowledge and awareness that we are all incredibly connected, we are energy after all. How do we transition changes in energy?
Allow for more grace and love to flow. Slow down and become more present in today, not the change that is coming. We are all guilty of pushing forward and wanting constant movement.
Make sure you allow for more self-care as a parent, so that you are able to hold your energy as a constant for your children. Fill your cup often.
Ensure that you are grounding yourself often, and come up with ways to encourage and teach your child to ground themselves daily. This can be as simple as getting them to crouch down into a ball then slowly standing up and asking them to imagine they are growing into a strong steady tree.
I generally ask then to become a tree and while they are going through the motions, I talk about how their roots are growing so deep within the earth that the wind is unable to move them.
Mantra: “I am strong. I am grounded. I am peaceful.”
Clear yourself, your home and your children often as you are transitioning change.
This can be done by using sage or cedar, or creating a spray with crystals, herbs and essential oils.
Go outside often!
Change up the energy of your home. Raise the vibration of your home.
Changing where your crystals are in your home or adding new ones beside your bed, creating new energy patterns.
Bring more nature in doors.
Clear out and de-clutter items that are not being used.
Change the furniture around.
Have a dance party.
Talk ALOT!
Validate their feelings of being unsure and maybe scared of the anticipated change. Trust me, it doesn’t matter how old they are, have the conversations. Their Souls are listening and thanking you for your candidness.
Talk about how changes can affect how we feel and that it is okay to feel unsure or unsteady at times.
Talk about how we need to be aware of our energy and when it changes, so that we can take action to bring us back to our heart centers and ground our energy.
Be honest, and let them know that sometimes you aren’t aware of your own energy and how it affects others and that you are learning together.
Just know that their behavior changes are not because you are doing a bad job at parenting. We are always doing our best with what we know in the moment. You are doing nothing wrong. You are an amazing parent. We are just raising some very beautifully sensitive, empathetic and intuitive children. With that comes the job of teaching awareness of our own energetic bodies, as well as learning and teaching additional tools so that they flourish into beautiful adolescents and adults that respect their energy and that of others. Most importantly, growing up with their intuition still at the forefront! We are raising and teaching the next generation of children how to cope, heal and be empowered by their intuition.
It takes a village to raise these beautiful souls and I am here to help in any way that I can. If you have questions or need additional tools to help your beautifully sensitive children, please do not hesitate to contact me.
Loving Hugs,
Ashley